How Texting Mind Games Will Ruin Your Life

We all know how popular texting is to communicate to parents, friends, or significant others and quite frankly it can be very useful when you don't have to the time to call someone.  But, with the technology of texting comes so many more difficult and stressful communication situations.  For example, when you are texting someone and they always take forever to respond and in the time they aren't responding you start over thinking what they could be thinking like, "Oh no they don't like me" or even more extreme, "They just don't even want to talk to me."

I agree, I fall under the category of people who does this, but what does it really accomplish when we assume what someone else is thinking?  Not to mention we take it very personally that someone didn't text back when we thought they were going to. Personal examination and blame is very popular outcome of not receiving a text back and can put someone in a very down state of mind.

Stop beating yourself up about what you texted or what they think.  If texting is your only form of communication, then you probably aren't that close, but in almost every other context texting shouldn't be used to get to know someone or to find out who they are as a person, that kind of conversation is meant to be had in person over dinner, or in a car, even grabbing coffee.

I guess what I'm saying is stop wasting so much time worrying about texting someone and worry about making the actual connection in person.  It is ten times more important and will truly bring the friendship or relationship closer together.  This is advice that everyone needs to take, including myself.  Don't take anything personally while texting someone  because you can never really tell the emotion behind something and never assume someone feels a certain way about something.  Conversation in  person will solve a lot of the issues that texting creates.

-Raboin