Jealousy In Relationships

Jealousy is a social issue that is usually connected to intimate relationships, but can also be seen in friendships.  Feelings of jealousy result from a fear of losing someone you are close to, or have a close relationship with.  When people gain this fear, instead of acting upon it by telling the person, emotions of anger and hate tend to rise up to cover the emotion of fear.  People do not like to feel vulnerable, and fear is an emotion of vulnerability, and that is why most people tend to revert to becoming angry and upset.  There are a few simple ways that jealousy can be avoided and made easier to handle instead of ending in a huge argument or fight.

1.) This most obvious one, trust your friend or partner.  Trust is always the most obvious connection to jealousy, or the lack their of, but it is also true.  If you don't trust your friend or partner, there will always be communication issues and arguments.  Many times you may not trust your friend or partner and you do not even notice it.  Realize and reflect if you do trust your friend.  Sometimes you have to put faith in others to be happy

2.) Don't compare yourself to other people.  Social comparisons will destroy your mood and morale every time you engage in it.  There will always be someone who looks better or seems to be more funny then you, but that isn't always the case.  If you wish you were stronger, or had more money, and you are insecure about your qualities, then you will be jealous of others who have those qualities.  If you are true friends or have a true connection with your partner, other people with some better qualities will not matter.

3.) Be confident with who you are.  It may sound very tough to here, but you have to be prepared to lose the person you close to you.  Not in a sense where you should let them go as soon as you feel jealous, but don't hold on to something or try to protect something that doesn't need your help.  If you are afraid and fear losing your friend or partner so much to jealousy, you will seem controlling.  Be confident in the way things will plan out.  Jealousy should never control a relationship, so why let it?

These are just a few ways to combat trust issues and the fear of losing someone.  Never be afraid to talk to your partner or friend about being jealous.  Talking about jealousy before it goes to far can always help a relationship.  Be confident with who you are and but trust in the relationship you have and jealously will not be a problem.  It will take time and effort, but not being jealous often will save you much unneeded stress.

-Raboin